Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Public Enemies- News Day

During the first of several bank robberies in Michael Mann's Depression-era gangster movie "Public Enemies," a rakish John Dillinger ( Johnny Depp) spots a shabbily dressed customer offering his meager deposit.

"We're not here for your money," says Dillinger, all kindness and charm. "We're here for the bank's money."

They're the same thing, of course, as we in the bailout age have discovered. But 1933 seems a simpler time, when a bank robber could be a folk hero; the Mafia had yet to join the global economy; and J. Edgar Hoover's FBI was pioneering the phone tap using vinyl 78s. This richly textured era - seemingly ancient but still recognizable and relevant - makes "Public Enemies" feel less like a flick and more like a fable.

If Dillinger is a frisky fox, FBI agent Melvin Purvis ( Christian Bale) is the humorless hound. Driven by the merciless Hoover ( Billy Crudup, subtly psychotic and possibly closeted), the FBI suffers as many casualties as it inflicts. Meantime, Dillinger's sad-eyed girlfriend, Billie Frechette ( Marion Cotillard), seems to intuit how this bloodshed will end.

"Public Enemies" can be a somber shoot-'em-up; the secondary characters blur together, a stream of clenched jaws and bullet wounds. Stephen Graham, briefly playing the volatile Baby Face Nelson, alone triggers the nerve-jangling mayhem that usually defines the gangster genre.

Despite its wide-brimmed hats and high-crowned sedans, "Public Enemies" has its mind on the 2000s. The plural title encompasses the good guys, who resort to monstrous tactics - including torture - in their pursuit of monsters. Something about Dillinger's bloody, summary death has always nagged at the public; Mann is clearly urging today's audiences to draw its own conclusions.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Save Your Mortgage!

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Thursday, March 19, 2009
New Bill

As you may have already heard, President Obama released information about his new foreclosure plan for homeowners with details to follow on March 4th. This is part two of the government's attempt to fix this housing crisis. On Oct.1, 2008, a $300 billion dollar Hope For Homeowners plan made to target approximately 400,000 homeowners has successfully helped 22 people as of January 24th. That's right, 22 people in four months (Click on this link to see a FHA report sent to Congress last month). Now with a new bill proposing $75 billion, 75% less money to use than the last bill, how will this help 9 million homeowners?

Let's take a look at the few facts already available about this new proposed bill:

1) Lenders are not required to modify loans, it is strictly voluntary. This stipulation was set in the previous bill and will remain in this one.

2) Only first mortgages will be eligible for modification. Second mortgages can NOT be modified.

These two facts alone are already telling us that this bill will result in the same type of disappointment as its predecessor and will continue to acknowledge the fact that the only way to achieve real help is through an experienced attorney-backed negotiation team. Again, my company exists for savvy clients that realize the government is not in a position to convince investors to take ridiculous losses through small incentives.

Diamond Consulting Group guarantees results. The only thing the government will guarantee is taxes. Please feel free to call me with questions or to get started with your free consultation.

P.S. Did you know that the government holds preferred shares/stocks in banks like Bank of America, Citigroup, Chase and Wells Fargo? Something to think about.


Amy Everett
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Diamond Consulting Group
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Temecula, CA 92591
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Thursday, February 19, 2009

Regard to the government's new plan to save homeowners. The new "Streamlined Modification Program" offered by the Federal Home Loan Agency has been created to induce servicers and banks to workout more modifications with homeowners. They currently regulate about 20% of all currently delinquent mortgages. The target date for this project is Dec. 15th, 2008. Here are some quick things to know about eligibility:

Bank/Servicer must volunteer to enter this program
Loan to Value must be 90% or higher
Homeowner must be at least 3 months (90 days) past due on their mortgage payments
Property must be an Owner Occupied property
Homeowner cannot be involved in bankruptcy
Zero chance of permanent principal reduction
To entice servicers and banks to participate, the government will be giving them $800 for every homeowner they help. Most investors will stand to lose significantly more than $800 by entering homeowners into this program. Similar to the Hope for Homeowners program, a previously failed initiative that began on Oct 1st, 2008, there is no real incentive for investors to agree to this situation and many homeowners will likely have to consider destroying their credit to find that they will not qualify for help. If you need more information about this program, please contact me by phone or email.


Amy Everett
Account Manager
Diamond Consulting Group
27450 Ynez Road Ste 306
Temecula, CA 92591
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Sunday, March 8, 2009

How To Choose

So it's Sunday morning , and I have finally brushed off Friday nights intentions. Do you ever stand up there on the stage of life ? Watching your audience , And you sit there and wonder where will all this take you next. Are you in love with someone you can't have? Or someone who didn't call after your date on Friday? Maybe your in a relationship and you are not really happy. SO you hold on to memories and try to make them real, today. But they live in yesterday. My point is, to remember you are on stage, you are in control of everything. So make what doesn't ring true today , make it your past , and make what is true real. Never wait in line, Never be second best, never doubt in who you are and what you stand for, never let any one push you down. They live on your watch and if it isn't the right time, move on. It will be there regret , never your own.

Friday, February 27, 2009

When You Become The Other Woman

Think About It Ladies........

So at first you tell your self his wife/girlfriend just isn't doing the job, so you feel some what special he is coming to you. Or You just don't care but you want the excitement and the fun with out the commitment.Either way it catches up to you. Because in the real world when you see their family pictures after you have slept with him a few times , it will sink in and hard. You see, you become the crutch for them to not deal with their problems. He says she is crazy, distant, doesn't want to have sex.... Really? Well think about it... Maybe he has walls , obviously he does if he is skirting behind her back, she feels pushed away and bingo.. Intimacy slides, resentment sets in and she thinks he is leaving her so she gets paranoid. Does this make sense to you? So my point is. If he runs with her when it gets tough, what will he do with you?

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Why Woman DO Not Like Nice Guys!

Why women do not like nice guys!
Submitted by arkady on February 10, 2008 - 7:16am.
Many sources of dating advice suggest that women are not attracted to, and are not interested in, dating "nice" guys. However, few of those sources bother to explain why - why don't women find attractive that which they seem to really want and even openly ask from the opposite sex? Why is it that these women ask for a sweet, caring, genuine, generous guy, but once they meet one, they get bored so quickly and they can't wait to move on because they just feel that "there is no chemistry there."
In order to understand this fascinating phenomenon, it is crucial that you realize and remember that there is a fundamental difference between being a nice guy and being an attractive guy. Did you ever ask yourself - what does it mean being attractive to a woman? Well, in short it means being an interesting individual who has qualities that make him an interesting and a good company. Look at this concept carefully for a moment - "good" alone and in itself won't cut it. It must be good and interesting. Being good means all those positive qualities of being honest, caring, genuine, considerate, and all other traits that make a nice guy. But, how does that guy become interesting? Well, to be an interesting company, you must be confident, funny, and different from other guys. All my dating audio programs for guys are dedicated to explaining in great detail what being confident, different, and funny means. For the purposes of this article I want to suggest to you that it means anything but being "nice." If all you are is nice, this means that you are boring! You are not doing anything to challenge a woman's mind, to contribute to and openly critique her opinions, to make her laugh, to be sarcastic and tease her, and to make fun of her and yourself in an endeering and charming way that will turn your interaction with her into a fun and memorable banter. If all you do is saying "excuse me, I agree, exactly, I am sorry, are you ok? are you sure about this?" and alike, you are anything but an attractive man. You are considerate, polite, kind, and all those other great things, but you are NOT sexy to her! You don't turn her on! And without that, you can't possibly be a romantic/dating candidate.
Think about it - there are certain qualities that you expect to see in a woman! Her body must be of a certain shape. Her behavior must make her come across as gentle, elegant and feminine. Well, a woman is also looking to find certain fundamental qualities in a man that she wants to be romantically involved with. These qualities have nothing to do with being a nice guy, simply because she wants every guy she deals with socially, at work, at school or in any other setting to be nice. There has to be something else in a guy she will be attracted to, beyond being nice - he has to show that masculinity that manifests itself in confidence, sense of humor and standing out from the rest of the guys in simple but obvious ways. We just talked briefly about confidence and humor. What about being different from other guys? Well, there are quite a few ways in which you can stand out form the rest. You might be different because you have a certain rare hobby that captures your soul and consumes a lot of your time. Your hobby or hobbies excite you and reflect on your personality and your passion for doing what you enjoy so much. Seeing a man with a passion is naturally attractive to women. You may come across as a different and a better guy just because you don't get as drunk when you are out like everyone else, and you don't allow yourself to degrade to the embarassing levels of stupor like many other guys in bars and clubs. When a woman sees that you give yourself more respect by not lowering yourself to the levels of others around you, she is very likely to be intrigued by you - that guy who doesn't conform to the behavior of others and who likes to be in control of himself at all times. Perhaps there is a unique style to your appearance or perhaps you worked on your linguistic skills and you are more eloquent than the average guy out there - those are just a few other random, simple ways in which you can stand out and be more attractive to women.
So, what am I trying to say here? The bottoms line is this: being a nice guy is great and you shouldn't change that about yourself. But, you should be nice and something more than just that - that something that makes you attractive and even sexually desirable to women - you must possess the qualities that distinguish you and set forth your masculinity clearly to the opposite sex. And those qualities are your sense of humor, your confidence, and your being different from most other, average nice guys.

Friday, January 23, 2009

My Favorite Band Of The Year -Check Them Out

Cross from Punk with a twist of violin and it's not the only strings they ill pull when you listen to their music. My friend Jay brought them to my attention 7 years ago. They still never leave the CD player or any juke box I can get my hands on.....

City Of Devil's -Yellow Card

Man once sang to me Look at you saving the world on your own And I wonder how things gonna be Cos the time here it passes so slow In a city of devils we live A city of devils we live Find somebody to learn Boy you gotta love someone more than yourself I can feel the fire of the city lights burn It's hard to find angels in hell Chorus Flying alone IFeel like I don't belong and I,Can't tell right from the wrong, why,Have I been here so long In a city of devils we live A city of devils we live Questions I can't seem to find To the answers I already have And you can't see the sky here tonightSo I guess I can't make my way back Chorus What if I wanted you here right now Would you fall in the fire burn me downIf I wanted you here right now Would you fall in the fire burn me down If I wanted you here right now...In a city of devils we live In a city of devils we live A city of devils we live In a city of…Chorus I don't belong Don't belong I've been here too long Too long

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Save Your Home And Your Mortgage -It's what I do

At Diamond we will negotiate your loan with your lender to get you a lower rate , a fixed rate, and a lower monthly payment. The worse of situation you are in the more we can help.

At Diamond, we have access to over 100 different banks and lenders which equates to access to over 1,000 different mortgage products to offer our clients. By combining professional expertise with direct access to thousands of loan products, Diamond provides the most efficient way to obtain financing tailored to your specific financial goals. When it comes time to buy or sell your real property let the experts at Diamond handle all aspects of your transaction from open to close. You are just one phone call away from all of the answers.

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How To Survive As A Single Parent

How to Survive as a Young, Single Mother
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Being on your own and trying to support your child isn't always easy. Money my be tight, living quarters are probably small and you may be lonely, but just remember to stay positive and believe in yourself.
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Step1Find a support group for others in your situation. It's hard for friends not in your situation to relate and give you the moral support you need. Being around other young single mothers helps you realize that you're not alone and you can share resources with each other as well.
Step2Look for affordable housing in a safe community that's located close to your work. If possible, live with family to save money and have a supportive atmosphere for your child.
Step3Continue your schooling if possible. Whether it be high school or college, if you can make arrangements for childcare and have the opportunity to go to school you should go. As a young single mother furthering your schooling to help assist you in getting a job is imperative
Step4Get your child on the WIC program. WIC is a federally funded program that gives low income mothers food, health care referrals and nutrition counseling if you your child is under five years old.
Step5Sign up at the local food bank and if there comes a time when you're short on money, you can stop at the food bank to get you through.
Step6Look into childcare stipends. You may qualify for aid in paying for childcare. This will help you be able to work while you keep the cost for daycare down. Daycare is especially important for a young single mother

Sunday, January 11, 2009

Signs He Is Using You

1) He will keep you off balance by being unreliable - not calling when he says he will, cancelling dates without much notice.
2) He won't introduce you to his friends - he doesn't want you to feel the security of being part of his life.
3) He will talk about things you can do together in the future that, however, somehow never materialise - if you bring them up, he will have an excuse as to why they're not possible right now.
4) He will try to rush you into bed with him before you're ready - he may ask to come into your apartment every chance he gets, using an excuse like wanting a cup of coffee or to use your bathroom, hoping that he can seduce you once he gets you alone.
5) He will try to make you feel that you have a special bond with him very quickly, when realistically you know that you haven't dated him long enough for one to have formed.

An Article I Found On Abuse Please Read

Domestic Violence and Abuse
Warning Signs and Symptoms of Abusive Relationships

If you think your spouse or partner is abusive, or you suspect that someone you know is in an abusive relationship, review the red flags and other information on domestic abuse and violence covered in this article. Not all abuse involves physical threat; emotional abuse can also leave deep and lasting scars. Recognizing the warning signs and symptoms of spousal abuse is the first step, but taking action is the most important step in breaking free.
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Domestic violence or abuse
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Types of domestic violence and abuse
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Domestic violence and abuse
Special note:
Stressful economic times trigger more instances of spousal abuse. To learn about reducing stress in your relationship, see Managing Relationship Stress
Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. An abuser doesn’t “play fair.” He or she uses fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and gain complete power over you. He or she may threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence.
Victims of domestic abuse or domestic violence may be men or women, although women are more commonly victimized. (Note:this article will use the pronoun “he” for convenience only) This abuse happens among heterosexual couples and in same-sex partnerships. Except for the gender difference, domestic abuse doesn’t discriminate. It happens within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds, and financial levels. The abuse may occur during a relationship, while the couple is breaking up, or after the relationship has ended.
Despite what many people believe, domestic violence is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over his behavior. In fact, violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser in order to take control over his wife or partner.
Violent Behavior is an Abuser's Choice
Reasons we know an abuser's behaviors are not about anger and rage:
He does not batter other individuals - the boss who does not give him time off or the gas station attendant that spills gas down the side of his car. He waits until there are no witnesses and abuses the person he says he loves.
If you ask an abused woman, "can he stop when the phone rings or the police come to the door?" She will say "yes". Most often when the police show up, he is looking calm, cool and collected and she is the one who may look hysterical. If he were truly "out of control" he would not be able to stop himself when it is to his advantage to do so.
The abuser very often escalates from pushing and shoving to hitting in places where the bruises and marks will not show. If he were "out of control" or "in a rage" he would not be able to direct or limit where his kicks or punches land.
Source: Mid-Valley Women's Crisis Service
Spousal abuse and battery are used for one purpose: to gain and maintain total control over the victim. In addition to physical violence, abusers use the following tactics to exert power over their wives or partners:
Dominance — Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of the relationship. They will make decisions for you and the family, tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as his possession.
Humiliation — An abuser will do everything he can to make you feel bad about yourself, or defective in some way. After all, if you believe you're worthless and that no one else will want you, you're less likely to leave. Insults, name-calling, shaming, and public put-downs are all weapons of abuse designed to erode your self-esteem and make you feel powerless.
Isolation — In order to increase your dependence on him, an abusive partner will cut you off from the outside world. He may keep you from seeing family or friends, or even prevent you from going to work or school. You may have to ask permission to do anything, go anywhere, or see anyone. Source: Domestic Abuse Intervention Project, MN
Threats — Abusers commonly use threats to keep their victims from leaving or to scare them into dropping charges. Your abuser may threaten to hurt or kill you, your children, other family members, or even pets. He may also threaten to commit suicide, file false charges against you, or report you to child services.
Intimidation — Your abuser may use a variety of intimation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property, hurting your pets, or putting weapons on display. The clear message is that if you don't obey, there will be violent consequences.
Denial and blame — Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behavior on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse. Your abuser may minimize the abuse or deny that it occurred. He will commonly shift the responsibility onto you: Somehow, his violence and abuse is your fault.
If you feel you are in physical danger immediately call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224.
Cycle of violence
Domestic abuse falls into a common pattern, or cycle of violence:
Abuse — The abuser lashes out with aggressive or violent behavior. The abuse is a power play designed to show the victim "who is boss."
Guilt — After the abusive episode, the abuser feels guilt, but not over what he's done to the victim. The guilt is over the possibility of being caught and facing consequences.
Rationalization or excuses — The abuser rationalizes what he's done. He may come up with a string of excuses or blame the victim for his own abusive behavior—anything to shift responsibility from himself.
"Normal" behavior — The abuser does everything he can to regain control and keep the victim in the relationship. He may act as if nothing has happened, or he may turn on the charm. This peaceful honeymoon phase may give the victim hope that the abuser has really changed this time.
Fantasy and planning — The abuser begins to fantasize about abusing his victim again, spending a lot of time thinking about what she's done wrong and how he'll make her pay. Then he makes a plan for turning the fantasy of abuse into reality.
Set-up — The abuser sets up the victim and puts his plan in motion, creating a situation where he can justify abusing her.
The Full Cycle of Domestic Violence
A man abuses his partner. After he hits her, he experiences self-directed guilt. He says, "I'm sorry for hurting you." What he does not say is, "Because I might get caught." He then rationalizes his behavior by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He tells her "If you weren't such a worthless whore I wouldn't have to hit you." He then acts contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on past abuse and how he will hurt her again. He plans on telling her to go to the store to get some groceries. What he withholds from her is that she has a certain amount of time to do the shopping. When she is held up in traffic and is a few minutes late, he feels completely justified in assaulting her because "you're having an affair with the store clerk." He has just set her up.
Source: Mid-Valley Women's Crisis Service
Your abuser’s apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He may make you believe that you are the only person who can help him, that things will be different this time, and that he truly loves you. However, the dangers of staying are real.
Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to physical violence and even murder. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. No one deserves this kind of pain—and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need.
Signs of an abusive relationship
There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most significant sign is fear of your partner. Other signs include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.
To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions in the table below. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.
Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings
Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior
Do you:
feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
feel emotionally numb or helpless?
Does your partner:
humiliate, criticize, or yell at you?
treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
blame you for his own abusive behavior?
see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats
Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior
Does your partner:
have a bad and unpredictable temper?
hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
threaten to take your children away or harm them?
threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
force you to have sex?
destroy your belongings?
Does your partner:
act excessively jealous and possessive?
control where you go or what you do?
keep you from seeing your friends or family?
limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
constantly check up on you?
Types of domestic violence and abuse
There are different types of domestic abuse, including emotional, physical, sexual, and economic abuse. Many abusers behave in ways that include more than one type of domestic abuse, and the boundaries between some of these behaviors may overlap.
Emotional or psychological abuse
Emotional or psychological abuse can be verbal or nonverbal. Its aim is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence. If you’re the victim of emotional abuse, you may feel that there is no way out of the relationship, or that without your abusive partner you have nothing. Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence.
You may think that physical abuse is far worse than emotional abuse, since physical violence can send you to the hospital and leave you with scars. But, the scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse—sometimes even more so. Furthermore, emotional abuse usually worsens over time, often escalating to physical battery.
Physical abuse
When people talk about domestic violence, they are often referring to the physical abuse of a spouse or intimate partner. Physical abuse is the use of physical force against someone in a way that injures or endangers that person. There’s a broad range of behaviors that come under the heading of physical abuse, including hitting, grabbing, choking, throwing things, and assault with a weapon.
Physical assault or battering is a crime, whether it occurs inside or outside of the family. The police have the power and authority to protect you from physical attack.
Sexual abuse
Sexual abuse is common in abusive relationships. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, between one-third and one-half of all battered women are raped by their partners at least once during their relationship. Any situation in which you are forced to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity is sexual abuse. Forced sex, even by a spouse or intimate partner with whom you also have consensual sex, is an act of aggression and violence. Furthermore, women whose partners abuse them physically and sexually are at a higher risk of being seriously injured or killed.
Economic or financial abuse
Remember, an abuser’s goal is to control you, and he will frequently hurt you to do that. In addition to hurting you emotionally and physically, an abusive partner may also hurt you in the pocketbook. Economic of financial abuse includes:
Controlling the finances.
Withholding money or credit cards.
Giving you an allowance.
Making you account for every penny you spend.
Stealing from you or taking your money.
Exploiting your assets for personal gain.
Withholding basic necessities (food, clothes, medications, shelter).
Preventing you from working or choosing your own career.
Sabotaging your job (making you miss work, calling constantly)
Domestic violence warning signs
Take Precautions
Call 911 or the police in your community if you suspect a case of domestic violence.
It's impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors, but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of domestic violence and abuse. If you witness a number of warning signs in a friend, family member, or co-worker, you can reasonably suspect domestic abuse.
Frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents”
Frequent and sudden absences from work or school
Frequent, harassing phone calls from the partner
Fear of the partner, references to the partner's anger
Personality changes (e.g. an outgoing woman becomes withdrawn)
Excessive fear of conflict
Submissive behavior, lack of assertiveness
Isolation from friends and family
Insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car) Domestic Violence and Abuse: Help, Treatment, Intervention, and Prevention
Depression, crying, low self-esteem
Reporting suspected domestic abuse is important. If you're afraid of getting involved, remember that the report is confidential and everything possible will be done to protect your privacy. You don’t have to give your name, and your suspicions will be investigated before anyone is taken into custody. Most important, you can protect the victim from further harm by calling for help.

Part 2: Help, Treatment, Intervention, and Prevention covers protecting yourself from domestic violence and leaving an abusive relationship safely, including restraining orders, shelters, staying safe after you’ve left, and dealing with the trauma of domestic abuse.
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Related links for domestic abuse and violence
Domestic violence hotlines and help
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) – A crisis intervention and referral phone line for domestic violence. (Texas Council on Family Violence)
State Coalition List – Directory of state offices that can help you find local support, shelter, and free or low-cost legal services. Includes all U.S. states, as well as the District of Columbia, Puerto Rico, and the Virgin Islands. (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence)
Abusive relationships and domestic violence
Domestic Violence Awareness Handbook – Guide to domestic violence covers common myths, what to say to a victim, and what communities can do about the problem. (U.S. Department of Agriculture)
Domestic Violence: The Cycle of Violence – Learn about the cycle of violence common to abusive relationships. (Mid-Valley Women’s Crisis Service)
Equality Wheel (PDF) – A “wheel” that gives guidelines for a healthy, nonviolent intimate relationship between a man and a woman. (Domestic Abuse Intervention Project)
Warning signs and symptoms of domestic violence and abuse
The Problem – Offers a checklist of behaviors and feelings that will help you assess whether you are in an abusive relationship. (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence)
Domestic Violence Warning Signs – Describes common warning signs that a woman is being emotionally abused or beaten. (Safe Place, Michigan State University)
For men
Intimate Partner Abuse Against Men – Learn about domestic violence against men, including homosexual partner abuse, sexual abuse of boys and male teenagers, and abuse by wives or partners. (National Clearinghouse on Family Violence, Canada)
For gay men and women
Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships – Describes myths about same-sex abuse; unique problems of the victims of same-sex abuse; and what society and professionals can do to help. (Education Wife Assault)

Words To lIve By.

If you have a word of cheer That may light the pathway drear, Of a brother pilgrim here, Let him know. Show him you appreciate What he does, and do not wait Till the heavy hand of fate Lays him low. If your heart contains a thought That will brighter make his lot, Then, in mercy, hide it not; Tell him so.
Wait not till your friend is dead Ere your compliments are said; For the spirit that has fled, If it know, Does not need to speed it on Our poor praise; when it is gone Love's eternal, golden dawn Is aglow. But unto our brother here That poor praise is very dear; If you have any word of cheer Tell him so.
J.A. Egerton 1869- ?

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Poetry To Get Your Hands On

I can't keep up
With the imagesPouring from my hand
Across pages and continents
I swore, never again
Still I find myself dreaming
Of your skin
Touching, caressing
Making hours of moments
Shaking legs
Quivering lips
Bathed in promise
Your hips
I want them against me
I want you all over me
Tasting dreams
Between your thighs
Lacing reality
With a hint of your eyes
Smiling up at me
I'm coming inside
To wrap these bedsheets
Around our exposed surfaces
Composed and chaotic
We are entangled by promise
Hanging on to consciousness
By a thread
I devour your sweetness
Empower such sweet flesh
To hold tight against this
We are this bed
We star in this play
We're begging for breath
Chasing it away
With every movement
Embracing the darkness
As a mystery of flesh
Erasing all doubt
As we come together
Dress ourselves
In each other
For days
Like blankets
Thrown to the floor
You're glowing
With reflections
Sweating complexions
Impossible positioning
As if we were bathed
In heat lamps
My desire
To burn
Beneath a single glance
Of your bedroom eyes
Let's adjourn
To the welcoming arms
Of lust entranced
By passionate moans
And quiet determination
By rapturous moments
Swallowed by oceans
I'll bring the world
To your bed
All I want
Is your skin
Begging and pleading
To take me in
Bedding an angel
That I may steal
A glance at the heavens
That you may feel
The warming fires of passion
Every day
Til the bracing end
When you're lying sated
In the devil's orchard
Reaping the fruits of sin
This exquisite torture
Chasing every starlit sky
To restless mornings
Where I start against your flesh
All over again
I'm all over your skin
Begging to breathe in

Your scent
Saving the best for last
You came just for this
The moment
I press
My hungry lips
Across yours
In this moment I giveEverything
Just for
The only dreamWorth falling for.
Written-Michael Fink... Devlinthedrknss you can see his poetry on http://www.thisisbyus.com/ please visit his blog spot also. This is definately a writer to keep up with. He is one of the finest if not the best. Please visit his work . Thank you

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

How To Overcome Sadness

1. List everything in your life you are thankful for and be happy. Put humor in your life! Learn to laugh at yourself or rent your favourite funny videos. Do not make any big decisions while you're in this state. Wait until you're feeling better so you can rationally weigh the ups and downs of your decisions. Do something that you enjoy or that will keep you busy, like cleaning your house, volunteer, or read your favorite book.
2. Try to make some plans with your friends. Chances are that you'll have tons of fun. Don't expect too much of yourself. Face the things that you're dreading. Once you do, you're bound to feel a lot better. Buy yourself or someone else a gift. Relax. Take a long walk by yourself to think things over, take a bubble bath, or listen to soothing music. Be sure to get enough sleep by going to bed and waking up at reasonable times. Being tired makes you feel more stressed and annoyed.
3. Give someone a hug. Everybody likes those. It'll make both of you feel good. Know that what you are going through is very common. Talk to someone you trust about what you are feeling - they can help you sort through your emotions.
4. Get some exercise. When you exercise, your body makes more special chemicals called endorphins that help to improve your mood. Regular exercise will also help to maintain a regular even appetite and sleep schedule - both important to your mental state as well. Practice deep relaxation exercises. Pray or read something inspirational . Don't dwell on your weaknesses or mistakes. Think of things that you love about yourself or that you've done to help someone. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments.
5. Prepare for tests early. Eat healthier meals and snacks. A good diet helps you both physically and mentally.
Set realistic goals. Always take things one step at a time. Stop worrying about things that may never happen. Find yourself. Get involved with things you like to do. Keep a journal . Your journal can act as someone you can always vent to and will never judge you. Make time for fun.
6. Do something totally selfless and anonymous - volunteer at a shelter or local treatment facility. Give thought to how much you have if you have a roof over your head, food to eat and are healthy.
7. Do not try to get rid of your bad thoughts especially in loss of a loved one- by fighting them when they came to your mind. Just let them move through your head, think of them, but don't let them take control over you. Manage them, for example if you are at work, leave them for a better time to think of. Struggling in order to get rid of some thoughts will make them stronger.
8. Remember that your mind is a battleground and you are the one who has to write the story of this battle. If you solve any problem inside your head, no longer it's of importance that if the truth is the way you like it or not. Is there anything happening in the real world when you don't know of it. In better words from works of Jean Baudrillard the French philosopher if a tree falls in the forest and no one is there, has the tree fallen at all?
cry, not just about the bad stuff, but what you have to help deal with the bad stuff, friends, family, a possible lover, i know from experience, remembering that YOU ARE NOT ALONE and devoid of love, combined with tears of sadness, acrually obliterate your negative emotions. don't be afraid to do this.

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Movie Review-Marley&Me


An ambitious young reporter, John Grogan, and his wife, Jenny, also a reporter, move to a Florida, buy a house and adopt a Labrador puppy they name Marley. Marley quickly becomes a rollicking force of nature in their lives.
Comedy, Drama and Adaptation
Running Time:
2 hr. 3 min.
Release Date:
December 25th, 2008 (wide)
MPAA Rating:
PG for thematic material, some suggestive content and language.
20th Century Fox Distribution

I saw this movie and it was amazing and moving. This is a must see movie.

Comedy At It's Finest

Dane Cook is by far the best comedian on the planet. His comedic genius will keep you laughing for months after you watch or listen to his shows. Dane Cook has C.D.'s and DVDs out if you can't make it to a live appearance. I have never seen any one so amazing and funny and brilliant in my life. You have to check him out and his new movie my best friends girl... You will not regret it. On top of his fame he is a humble and sweet guy. He never forgets his fans IE: His my space, and he has another web site http://www.danecook.com/. I urge you to go take a look he is fantastical!!!

Saturday, January 3, 2009

Easy Holiday Dessert -Only 3 Ingredients


2 pkgs (3 oz each) soft ladyfingers
3/4 cup coffee-flavored liqueur (such as Kahlua) or coffee syrup + 3/4 cup water
1 tub (1 lb 8.3 oz) ready-to-eat cheesecake filling (Kraft Philadelphia)
1. Separate and arrange 1 package of the ladyfingers on the bottom of an 8-in. square baking dish, overlapping slightly.
2. Mix liqueur and water in small bowl; brush ladyfingers with half the mixture. Stir cheesecake filling in tub until spreadable. Spoon half over ladyfingers, spreading evenly. Repeat layers.
3. Garnish top with sifted unsweetened cocoa powder, if desired. Cover and refrigerate 2 hours.
Different Takes
Sprinkle grated bittersweet chocolate between ladyfinger and filling layers.
Substitute hazelnut-flavored liqueur for the coffee-flavored liqueur.
Make a tiramisu cake by layering in an 8-in. springform pan.

Friday, January 2, 2009

Hart & Huntington Tattoos

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Top Ten For A Second Home

The top 10 towns for second-home investments
EscapeHomes.com identified popular second-home destinations that appreciated at least 10% a year in value between 1998 and 2002 and which may have further to go.

The results are based on their own listings for real estate in these communities. Listings arent sales, though, and EscapeHomes.com doesnt reflect the whole market. In fact, real estate professionals in some of these towns (Asheville, N.C., for example) say sales were never that hot, while those in others (Park City, Utah, and Sunriver, Ore.) say appreciation has slowed in recent years.

Where possible, Ive included price appreciation figures compiled by the federal Office of Federal Housing Enterprise Oversight, which oversees housing finance companies Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac and which compiles housing sales data for larger metropolitan areas.

With all those caveats aside, here are the Top 10 second-home investment markets:
Asheville, N.C. This mountain town boasts the Biltmore Estate and a thriving arts and crafts community. Home prices are up 35% in the past five years, compared with the national median growth of 27.8%.

Park City, Utah. The Olympics-related frenzy has cooled, but Park City is still a preferred destination for skiers and other winter sports fanatics. Prices this year are up between 5% and 7%, according to real estate broker Mike Sloan, statistician for the areas Board of Realtors.

Ashland, Ore. Lovely weather, lovelier scenery and cultural cachet combine in Ashland. Located about halfway between Portland and San Francisco, the town is also home to Southern Oregon University and the highly regarded Oregon Shakespeare Festival. Ashlands home values have exploded in recent years. Home prices in the region that includes Ashland and nearby Medford have risen at least 40% since 1998, according to federal figures, while a local appraiser puts Ashlands average home price growth closer to 70% in that period.

Port Townsend, Wash. This picture-perfect Victorian seaport lay nearly untouched for most of its long history until being discovered by Seattle yuppies in the 1990s. Its still quaint, but relatively mild weather and proximity to Olympic Peninsula attractions have increased its appeal for retirees and urban refugees.

Beaufort, S.C. You know Beaufort, even if youve never been there. Youve seen it in movies like The Big Chill and Forrest Gump, and youve read about it in the pages of The Prince of Tides and The Great Santini by one-time Beaufort resident Pat Conroy. Fishing, shrimping and a National Historic Landmark District are features of The Queen of the Carolina Sea Islands.

South Lake Tahoe, Calif. Though it shared Americas largest alpine lake with the more glamorous Lake Tahoe, Nev., this community was long the dowdy little sister. No more. Two new Marriotts have replaced a strip of decaying old motels along the main drag, and theres talk of a convention center. Median home prices are up 21% from last year, said Madeleine Gutierrez, vice president of the South Lake Tahoe Association of Realtors.

Daytona Beach, Fla. Nineteenth-century industrial barons popularized Daytona, which is probably best known for the international raceway built in 1959 and the Daytona 500 auto race. Eight million visitors pour through annually. Home prices are up 44% in the past five years and nearly 9% in the last year alone.

Sunriver, Ore. This central Oregon resort area is near Bend and the Mt. Bachelor ski resort, about four hours from Portland and two hours east of Eugene. Whitewater rafting, hiking and skiing are favorite pastimes. Prices on some properties are about double what they were eight years ago, realtors say, but appreciation has slowed down in recent years along with the economy.

Myrtle Beach, S.C. The beaches along The Grand Strand -- and the areas 120 golf courses -- draw 14 million visitors annually. Despite the crush, Myrtle Beach consistently winds up in various listings of the nations best beaches and best retirement towns, with home prices rising at an 8% annual clip.

Charlevoix, Mich. This little town lies between the shores of Lake Michigan and Lake Charlevoix in northern Michigan. The population of the town and surrounding area is 8,500 full-time residents -- which climbs to 30,000 in the summer. Golf courses and water fun are the main attractions.

Liz Pulliam Weston's column appears every Monday and Thursday, exclusively on MSN Money

Only The Best Cakes

Charm City Cakes is the most inventive cake shop in the planet! Best tasting also. You must visit their web site and check them out on The Food Network. Ace Of Cakes. Here is the copy of their blog- Charm City Cakes was started in March of 2000 when Chef Duff had tired of wandering the country and decided to settle in Baltimore. At first, Chef Duff was just making a few cakes for friends and family, but as word got out about his uncommon creations, business picked up fast. In March of 2002, Chef Duff was getting so inundated with cake orders that he decided to fling off the oppression of his day job and make cake baking his full time gig! He quickly outgrew his home kitchen and two bakeries; in August of 2005 he bought a 6,000 square foot cake compound in Remington. Today, Charm City Cakes has grown to a staff of eleven friends who make cakes, listen to music, and eat a lot of sushi.

Here at Charm City Cakes, we are motivated by constantly trying to outdo ourselves by making cakes that are beautiful, challenging, and as out-of-the-ordinary as possible! Our inspiration comes from everywhere: art, fabric, furniture, architecture, landscapes, science, music, anything! Most of all, our inspiration comes from you! Each cake is individually designed to match you, your personality, and the theme of the occasion you are celebrating.

We only have one rule at Charm City Cakes, and that is whatever we do, we must have fun! Charm City Cakes is a very relaxed, creative environment – and that spirit is reflected in every cake we bake. Our staff is a ragtag group of musicians, artists, and creative souls with experience in architectural modeling, graphic design, sculpture, painting, DJ-ing, coffee slingin’, performance art, massage therapy, and waitressing. Our designs are unique, our flavors are unusual and delicious, and our demeanor is chill but professional. Our cakes are all individually baked to order, and every cake is always fresh, never frozen. We have over 40 flavors, and experiment with new ones all the time - - if you don’t see it on our list, don’t be afraid to ask, ‘cause we can probably make it.

There are no limits to what we can do here at Charm City Cakes. You dream it, we’ll bake it, you eat it.

The Best Hotel In The Most Beautiful Place

Nestled on the cliffs of Big Sur, California, Post Ranch Inn provides the ultimate accommodations for a romantic getaway for those seeking a luxurious escape for a honeymoon, anniversary, or a relaxing vacation. The luxury resort’s organic architecture embraces the dramatic beauty of the Big Sur coastline. From here you can explore all that nature has to offer, or take a short drive to the picturesque towns of Monterey and Carmel.

Located off Highway One in Big Sur, this Small Luxury Hotel member is a sanctuary suited to all your needs. Rooms offer a rustic elegance with luxury and comfort. Relax by the pools and take in the views of the Ventana mountains, awaken your senses with an in-room massage, spa treatment, or daily yoga classes. Our award-winning Sierra Mar restaurant offers an awe-inspiring setting overlooking the Pacific Ocean, with stunning views of the Big Sur coast, perfect for a romantic dinner for two.

New Years Finest Drinks

Vod-Aid- Simple Vodka PunchDirections: 2 quarts of cherry Kool- aid mixed with approximately 10 fingers of the vodka of your choice or more in a punch bowl with ice. Try not to over power the kool-aid juice too much. This is a great center piece drink for a New Year's Eve party. Float thinly sliced orange peels on top. Serve in tall tumbler glasses with a ladle. Be warned with this drink that guest may feel the need to add their own liquor of choice to this recipe. You may end of with a very wild punch if you have sneaky guests.Emerald-Tini Vodka Cocktail-Directions: In a shaker stir 2 fingers vodka (I prefer Rain vodka with is a certified organic brand of vodka), 1 finger dry vermouth and 1 finger chartreuse with ice. Pour into a chilled martini glass. Float a twist of lemon on top. This New Year's cocktail has a beautiful color that your guests will love.Cranberry Candy Cane Shooters-Directions: In a tall shooter glass add 3 fingers of vodka. Fill the rest of the glass with cranberry juice. Stir with a candy cane stick and leave it as garnish as you serve this delightful vodka shooter.